Why Boundary Isn’t a Bad Word

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Why Boundary Isn’t a Bad Word

Caring for yourself while still having meaningful relationships with others can be a tricky balance, especially when it comes to family. Have you ever found yourself dreading instead of looking forward to the next family gathering? If so, it may be helpful to look at the boundaries you have in place with your family.  When you hear the word “boundary”...[ read more ]

Creating a New Normal: Coming to Terms with an Unexpected Tragedy

By Taylor Ann Macey, Certified Life Coach and Founder of The Brain Diet I always thought I was a pretty normal person. I felt like I had a normal childhood, I did normal things as a teenager, transitioned into a normal adult. At the age of 25 I expected to continue being a wife and mother, running my business as...[ read more ]

How Valuable is Premarital Counseling Really?

By Misty DeMann, LAMFT Marriage is one of the biggest life cycle changes that will occur. When a couple decides to start their life together, there are many developmental aspects involved. “Marriage requires that two people renegotiate a great many issues they have previously defined individually or through their culture and family of origin, such as money, space, time, and...[ read more ]

Stop Listening to Respond and Start Listening to Understand: A Word on Validation

  Porter Macey, Ph.D., LMFT. Clinic Director  May 12, 2020 The popular novel, One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest by Ken Kesey tells a fictional story of a dysfunctional mental ward in the 1950s. One of the main characters and narrator, Chief Bromden hasn’t talked in years. He has been silent for so long that the hospital staff believe him...[ read more ]

Staying ATTUNEd: Creating Emotional Trust in Marriage

By Spencer Hinckley, CSW What is trust? Longtime relationship researcher Dr. John Gottman believes trust in a relationship requires two things: 1) Transparency, or a belief that one sees the true reality of their partner, and 2) The feeling that one's partner is there for them in time of need.* In other words, partners must be able to answer yes when asked “Are you truthful?” and...[ read more ]

Thawing a Frozen Heart

I just saw the new Disney movie, Frozen.  Have you seen it?  It has received high praise this year, and rightly so.  It’s a beautiful story and very well-done.  There were a number of elements in the story that I found very meaningful, though much of that is probably because I am a therapist and hopelessly trapped in that mindset...[ read more ]

Suicide: There Is Hope! Simple Steps to Recognize & Respond

By Rick Rawlins, LCSW (Click HERE for a complete bio) Recently there has been increased media attention and awareness given to the topic of suicide.  Too often the subject of suicide causes people to feel uncomfortable and not want to discuss it.  Yet when someone is suffering and considering suicide, talking about it is exactly what is needed. Suicide occurs in...[ read more ]

Don’t Show Your Teens the 3 Bad Reactions: Hurt, Anger, & Fear

If you're just joining this series now, be sure to check out the last 4 posts in the parenting series. Hurt, Anger, and Fear.  Feeling these emotions isn't the problem.  And if they hit you because of life stressors or pressure, then by all means, let your kids see you show them-- within careful limits and in healthy ways.  The...[ read more ]

Don’t Be Afraid to Show Emotion to Your Kids

If you missed the first 3 parts of this parenting series, make sure to click HERE, HERE, and HERE. A lot of parents get so tired from their busy lives that they unintenionally operate in either a "superficial happy" state, or in anger (which is often just a way of hiding their underlying sense of feeling overwhelmed). We don't do...[ read more ]

Don’t Forget to Follow-Through

If you missed the first 2 parts of this parenting series, click HERE and HERE. Believe it or not, kids thrive on consistency.  Really!  They may rant and rave about how they hate your stupid rules and how you have no idea what the world is like today, but they still thrive when they have structure and consistency.  Research proves...[ read more ]